Fly with eagles

If you scratch with turkeys, you become a turkey. If you fly with eagles, you become an eagle. If you surround yourself with negative people you take on their negativity. Why? Because in life we tend to absorb all the attitudes and character traits of those we mix with.

Carefully select and surround yourself with people that are optimistic, positive, and who stimulate and encourage you. So surround yourself with people and books that stimulate you, and encourage you to stretch yourself. Avoid those blood sucking moaners and groaners who are negative, pessimistic and miserable about nearly everything. Don’t listen to the doom merchants who transfer their own sense of inadequacy on to you by pointing out all the reasons why you are going to fail.

So at all costs – please avoid those turkeys – and fly!

I conclude with one of my favourite quotes:

“Our deepest fear is NOT that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous’? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God: your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”  Nelson Mandela quoting Marianne Williamson

Stop Whining! Start Working!

“If you have time to whine and complain about something, then you have the time to do something about it.” – Anthony J. D’Angelo

Are you a moaner and groaner?

Every company has its prima donnas. Are you that person for your team or company? Do you constantly whinge about your duties? Your long hours? Your poor salary?

I can guarantee you one thing. It doesn’t make you happier. It certainly won’t get you the opportunities, success and rewards that you aspire to. If you want to succeed in these challenging times then you must have respect for your company, your boss, your colleagues, and your job.

Your number one goal in the workplace today is to be a TEAM PLAYER. If you want to succeed as a team player, then don’t ever say:

1. “That is not my job.” These words are guaranteed to hold you back. If you don’t understand why you’ve been asked to do a certain task, carefully examine why your boss wants you to do it. The chances are likely that she or he has a good reason.

2. “It’s not my problem.” If your team or company faces a crisis then this is not smart to say or even think. Ask “how may I help?” If you don’t have anything constructive to say, rather say nothing.

3. “It’s not my fault.” If there’s a problem, fix it, it doesn’t matter who’s to blame. Nothing displays a better team attitude than ferociously helping during a crisis.

4. “I am overqualified for this job.” Maybe you are, but the fact is that this is the job you have. You agreed to take it on. And while you may now regret that decision, it’s still your job and your source of income. Complaining that you’re too good for it displays a poor attitude. Let your actions, not your gripes, show that you are ready for more challenging work.

5. “I can only do one thing at a time.” Sometimes we can get overwhelmed, but is essential that you learn how to multi-task. Stating that you cannot handle pressure will simply hinder your prospects. Flexibility is a key quality that your boss is searching for.

6. “It can’t be done” or “That doesn’t work around here.” These are just self-fulfilling prophesies and proof that you lack confidence, initiative and adaptability. Your job is to solve problems not to whinge about them. Take the challenge and search for ways to make it happen.

It’s easy to come up with excuses and rationalise why you are not moving up the ladder at work.

Three valuable rules of work are:

  • Moaning is pointless. It is unproductive and achieves nothing.
  • It is almost impossible to be successful or to get promoted if you don’t set goals and objectives.
  • When you walk through the office first thing in the morning there should be a spring in your step.

 Your crucial role at work is to ensure that you fit into the team. We are all team players, we have to be. If you want to be a superstar, start behaving like one.

John Lloyd is author of the book Smart Thinking for Crazy Times. Get your copy today.