The three most important phrases in the world – Do you use them enough?

There are no nicer or more powerful phrases in the English language to use than the following:

  • “Thank you”
  • “I am proud of you”
  • “I appreciate you” or “I appreciate your efforts”

These magical words do not only make other people feel good, but they serve as a strong motivational force. But, if saying “thank you”, “I am proud of you” and “I appreciate you” is so powerful, why don’t we say them more often?

Do we forget to do so because we are too preoccupied with ourselves? Has this silenced our voice of gratitude and appreciation? Here’s the good news – Developing the habit of saying these powerful words not only benefits others, but, like all gifts that we give, it benefits ourselves as well.

Develop the habit of using them often and using them with meaning.

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Change is a choice

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Gandhi

The only person who can change himself or herself is himself or herself. You can change yourself, but somebody else cannot change you.

Most people need to look at the way that they look at change. How many times have you heard somebody say, “I sure hope that things will change” . The only way things will change for me is when I change. It has absolutely nothing to do with hope.

I’m sure that you’ve heard somebody say these words before, “I don’t know why I’m this way” . Well, you are the way you are because that is the way you have chosen to be.

Positive change is possibly the most sought after goal in life. Which changes would improve your life today?

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” – Tolstoy

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Stop trying to make everyone like you

Do you like everyone you meet? Probably not! No one does. Knowing this, then why should you expect everyone to like you?

Many of us have the most trouble with this when it comes to family and friends. The hard truth is that sometimes your relationship with certain people will never be as close as you want or need. What’s the answer? Find other people to achieve the closeness you desire.

Be cool and be a person who does not try to make everyone like you, but rather a person who relies on just being yourself. You do this because you understand the impossibility of making everyone like you and to reduce stress in your social activities. Rather focus on being a laidback person who is interested in other people. This is quite effortless and I guarantee you will attract people like a magnet.

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It’s never too late!

“You’re never too old to learn.”Anonymous

A dear friend of mine wants to fulfill a lifelong dream and go and study music. On the surface of this idea there’s nothing wrong, but she is in her fifties. When she starts her classes there’s a good chance that most of her fellow students will be young enough to be her kids. I know that she’ll be the life of the class. She is a real quick learner and will be popular with her fellow students. The only challenge I foresee is when the class forms a band we’ll have to carefully guide her dress sense (hope she doesn’t read this newsletter), but for the rest she will waltz through her studies. I’m confident that fulfilling her musical studies and goals will give her a great sense of achievement.

Question – Think you’re too old to begin a new challenge or pursue a new idea? You definitely aren’t. Being old is never a question of years. It is our attitude that determines our real age. Have you stopped giving voice to the little child within you? Have you used your age as an excuse to close your mind to a new experience or a new challenge?

In fact, the opposite is true. Our age and life experiences are tremendous assets for us when we try something new. Opportunities are endless so don’t use your age as an excuse not to pursue your dreams. Your life is a one-time deal, so make the most of it.

Is there something you’re not doing because of your age? If so, then just do it!

“When they tell me I’m too old to do something, I attempt to do it immediately.” – Pablo Picasso

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