The secret to substantial happiness

You’ve already set some significant goals for 2013. Today, I’m going to ask you to set one more: the focused goal to become a better person.

You are going to do that by making a commitment to:

  •   paying less attention to yourself and more attention to other people
  •   focus on opportunities, not challenges and problems
  •   listening with more attention
  •   only criticise when your criticism is constructive and helpful
  •   try to never speak badly about anyone
  •   reduce your tendency to complain about anything
  •   perform an act of kindness every day
  •   stop sweating the small stuff

These actions will have a profound effect on your happiness. The secret to substantial and enduring happiness in life is usually about doing less for yourself and more for others.

I’m probably sharing a blinding flash of the obvious with you, but every day I meet up with people who falter with these basic fundamentals. I’m sure you’ve discovered that putting others first is a commitment that requires constant attention. Renew that commitment today.

Nothing will have a more positive impact on your life than improving your rapport skills and becoming a better person.

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

John Lloyd is a business growth strategist, award-winning marketing consultant, speaker, trainer, columnist and author of the book Smart Thinking for Crazy Times.     

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A special lesson from the Special Olympics

This is a true story. A few years ago at the Seattle Special Olympics, nine runners, all physically or mentally disabled, gathered at the starting line for the 100 yard dash.

At the gun, they all started, not exactly like Usain Bolt, but with an appreciation to run the race to the finish and win. Except one little boy who stumbled on the track, tumbled over a couple of times, and began to cry. The other eight heard the boy cry. They slowed down and looked back. Then they all turned around and went back, every single one of them. One girl with Down Syndrome bent down and kissed him and said, “This will make it better”.

Then all nine linked arms and walked together to the finish line.

Everyone in the stadium stood and the cheering went on for several minutes. People who were there still tell the story today. Why? Because deep down we know this one thing: What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves.

The moral of this story: What matters in this life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.

Why am I highlighting this memorable event? I think of the daily news stories about doping and cheating at all costs. I think of the few business people that I frequently come across who hold the belief that selfish, ‘cut throat’ tactics will help their businesses grow and that this gives them the advantage over others.

Some people understand life better, and yet some of these people are called ‘retarded’.

John Lloyd is a business growth strategist, award-winning marketing consultant, speaker, trainer, columnist and author of Smart Thinking for Crazy Times.

Visit John at www.brandstorm.co.za

Do you need a speaker who will educate and inspire at your next industry conference or a consultant who will increase profits, multiply sales and magnify marketplace positioning? Contact John – john@brandstorm.co.za

Why are women such good negotiators?

AS LEADERS, WOMEN RULE: New studies find that female managers outshine their male counterparts in almost every measure” – Special Report, Business Week

I regularly present a two hour seminar titled Essential Skills for the Street Smart Negotiator and I am convinced that generally speaking, women are instinctively better negotiators than men.

We live and operate in a ‘high trust’ selling environment. We are also living in a business era that I call the ‘relational marketing’ era. This “relationship stuff” comes naturally to women (it’s in their genes), but it is painfully difficult for many men.

Old school selling is dead! Endless boozy lunches are a thing of the past and so-called golf course negotiations are history. This is a time when deals are struck on high trust and powerful relationships. Women have a natural aptitude for good communication, natural empathy and softer aggression. These are all powerful characteristics that benefit the new age negotiator.

Eight strengths that make women naturally born negotiators:

1. The ability to put themselves in their counterparts shoes.

2. A comprehensive, attentive and detailed communication style.

3. A natural empathy that facilitates and builds trust.

4. They have a curious and attentive listening ability.

5. Women have a less competitive attitude.

6. A strong sense of fairness and ability to persuade.

7. They are proactive risk managers.

8. They easily understand collaborative decision-making. 

Be smart! Women should dominate your negotiating teams and processes. Even better, ensure that you have a strong representation of women at top management and board level.

“The ‘Connection Proclivity’ in women starts early. When asked, ‘How was school today?’ a girl usually tells her mother every detail of what happened, while a boy might grunt, ‘Fine.’ ” – Faith Popcorn, EVEolution

John Lloyd is a business growth strategist, award-winning marketing consultant, speaker, trainer, columnist and author of Smart Thinking for Crazy Times.

Visit John at www.brandstorm.co.za

Do you need a speaker who will educate and inspire at your next industry conference or a consultant who will increase profits, multiply sales and magnify marketplace positioning? Contact John – john@brandstorm.co.za