Refuse to be a victim

“We focus on the negatives, losing ourselves in the ‘problem’. We point to our unhappy circumstances to rationalise our negative feelings. This is the easy way out. It takes, after all, very little effort to feel victimised.”  Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

What is a victim? Victims are people who run their lives according to the orders of others. You are a victim when your life is not working for you and you allow others to control it. Victims allow themselves to be dominated and pushed around. They believe that they are not smart enough or strong enough to be in charge of their lives. These self-limiting beliefs are almost always misleading and if not adjusted, become destructive.

Nothing and no one can make you a victim. We do it to ourselves when we allow external circumstances or situations to hold power over us. Although we have no control over what happens to us, we always have a choice in how we respond to events and circumstances.

We hold our power when we accept complete responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions. Feelings of acceptance and responsibility give you immense personal power.

Be a worthy, effective and confident you, rather than a weak permission-seeking victim who believes that everyone else is more important than you.

Your life is precious, so why should you live at the mercy of others. Refuse to be a victim!

“The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed.” – Steven Biko                                                                   

An extract from Smart Thinking for Crazy Times. Get your copy today.

John Lloyd is a business growth strategist, award-winning marketer, speaker, trainer, columnist and author of the book Smart Thinking for Crazy Times.     

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Are you a strong leader?

Running a business is a challenge, especially in tough times. The businesses that thrive are the ones that have strong leadership. So, if you haven’t been a strong leader, now’s the time to do so. This may require some major changes in how you run your business, your business model, and even the people that work for you.

Leaders are made, not born. You learn to become a leader by doing what other excellent leaders have done before you. You become proficient in your job or skill, and then you become proficient at understanding the motivations and behaviours of other people. As a leader, you combine your personal competencies with the competencies of a variety of others into a top class functioning team that can out-play and out-perform all its competitors.

The time to take action is now! If your business isn’t where you want it to be, then it’s time to stop making excuses and look in the mirror. Is your business a reflection of you, the leader of the business? If so, you can make some changes and improvements to what you are doing, and it will lead you to a much better place!

Action Exercises:

1. Set high standards for yourself and for each person in your team and then dedicate yourself to achieving those standards. Set a good example. Be an inspirational leader by being a role model for everyone else to follow. The more people look up to you, the better they will do their work and the happier they will be.

2. Delegate complete responsibility for results to your subordinates. Discuss and agree on exactly what should be done, when it should be done by, and to what standard. Then, get out of the way and let them perform.

3. Express complete confidence in your subordinate’s ability to do an excellent job. Tell them how important and valuable they are and then give them both the responsibility and the opportunity to do their job the very best they know how. Radiate an attitude of confident expectation.

John Lloyd is a business growth strategist, award-winning marketer, speaker, trainer, columnist and author of the book Smart Thinking for Crazy Times.     

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What trait do the best sales people in the world have?

What is that trait? It’s a balance of empathy and ego strength. Without empathy, a sales person can’t build rapport and connect with a prospect, but too much empathy and there’s no close, and therefore no sale.

What about closing? That comes from ego strength and strong self-esteem. Too much ego strength and you get a bad sales person pushing too hard and frightening clients away. Enough ego strength and you get a confident sales professional.

The ideal sales person is the one with a good balance of empathy and ego. Be aware of the importance of developing a good balance of these two abilities and you will massively improve your chances of success in sales.

John Lloyd is a business growth strategist, award-winning marketer, speaker, trainer, columnist and author of the book Smart Thinking for Crazy Times.     

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