Refuse to be a victim

“We focus on the negatives, losing ourselves in the ‘problem’. We point to our unhappy circumstances to rationalise our negative feelings. This is the easy way out. It takes, after all, very little effort to feel victimised.”  Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

What is a victim? Victims are people who run their lives according to the orders of others. You are a victim when your life is not working for you and you allow others to control it. Victims allow themselves to be dominated and pushed around. They believe that they are not smart enough or strong enough to be in charge of their lives. These self-limiting beliefs are almost always misleading and if not adjusted, become destructive.

Nothing and no one can make you a victim. We do it to ourselves when we allow external circumstances or situations to hold power over us. Although we have no control over what happens to us, we always have a choice in how we respond to events and circumstances.

We hold our power when we accept complete responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions. Feelings of acceptance and responsibility give you immense personal power.

Be a worthy, effective and confident you, rather than a weak permission-seeking victim who believes that everyone else is more important than you.

Your life is precious, so why should you live at the mercy of others. Refuse to be a victim!

“The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed.” – Steven Biko                                                                   

An extract from Smart Thinking for Crazy Times. Get your copy today.

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